一封鼓励的信
男儿当志强！在新加坡，每位父母疼爱的宝贝儿子在青年阶段都必须要踏出自己的舒适圈来服从兵役。而在他们实行艰苦的野外训练中途，考虑周全的当局会递上至亲家人的来函借此在精神上来支持他们。以下是姐姐写给弟弟在野外军训的一封信，信中还应用了从心理学角度的鼓励话语……
页姗
英语原文
“Yo, recently learnt that we tend to underestimate what we can emotionally handle (textbook or research article, can’t remember the source, aka source amnesia). From the evolutionary perspective, it would be so we would avoid those unknown and unfamiliar events that could potentially endanger us (psychologically). But guess what, turns out we can handle more than we think, no matter how devastating the emotional/psychological burden (as long as its not overly traumatic). So, that means that the next time you think “I can’t do this anymore, feel like giving up”, in actuality, your mind is just shielding you from potential damage, and you are no where close to your limit. Also the more you suffer, the more you can suffer. The threshold for “giving up” gets higher ‘coz now you know the strategies to deal and cope, and you have gained the experience + the knowledge that you can actually overcome it, thus increasing your self-efficacy — that’s your belief of your innate abilities to achieve goals. (“Self-efficacy reflects confidence in the ability to exert control over one's own motivation, behavior, and social environment”, so high SE is good). So... stay safe (physically) and have fun!
华语翻译
呦，近来的学习我了解到了我们总是倾向于低估自己在情绪上的掌控能力（资料讯息来源：书本或研究报告）。 以进化论的解说，之所以然是因为我们的潜意识在面对未知或陌生的情况可能会带来的威胁而表现出来的心里反应。 事实上证明，我们掌控的能力远超于我们的想象，无论在情感或精神上的负担有多重（只要不是过于的创伤性）。 这意味着当我们以后产生“我再也做不下去了，想放弃了”的念头时，其实就是你心里想防护你受伤的可能性，而你 却离自己的极限还远着呢！ 何况，你越是受苦，你就越能吃苦！而“放弃”这个念头的门槛就越高，因为你有了确实的经验和知识，已经明白了 应对的策略，因此增强加了自己的自我效能 — 这就是达致目标的内在信念。 （附：“自我效能”反射出自信心去掌控本身的动力，行为以及适应社会环境的能力。所以自我效能越高就越好！） 好了就这样……要注意安全，过得有乐趣！
启安
英语原文
“Our minds are stronger than we think, and this proved true for me from my experiences. My journey in NS has been one filled with ups and downs. A brief summary of my NS journey is this: Basic Military Training, BMT -> out of course due to injury -> 8-5 stay out clerk -> re course BMT -> Officer Cadet School, OCS. Coming to OCS was something unexpected, and almost proved too tough for me. About 2 months in, I was down in the dumps. I found myself almost giving up, almost requesting to leave after I got sick during an outfield and could not complete the exercise. But, through the support of my family and peers, I persevered on. I realised it wasn't so tough after all; it was just my own negativity telling myself to give up. Overcoming that, I have graduated from OCS and am now waiting for vocation posting. I definitely do not regret pushing on. Sometimes your biggest enemy can be yourself. If you can overcome your own fears and uncertainty, you can do almost anything.
华语翻译
其实我们的心智比我们想象中的还要强！众所周知，服兵役的过程是充满着变数的，我的亲身经历就是一个例子。刚开始接受基本军训时，由于跌倒受伤，我无法继续基本训练而被安排到办公室成了一名朝八晚五的阿兵哥书记。但是自从重新受训后我便被选中分配去上军官的训练课程。军官训练这项安排是我始料不及的事情。刚开始军训的前两个月也确实是让我难以应付；由于在其中一次的营外训练中途生病了，无法完成课程，身心受到了打击，我几乎就要放弃了这项严谨的军官课程训练！但是在家人和哥儿们的鼓励之下，我坚持了下来继续接受各项挑战。过后我发现其实所有的挑战并非想象中的那么艰苦，那纯粹是自己消极的心态在作祟。如今，克服了心理障碍的我已毕业于军校，正等待分派到营地执行任务，我没后悔当初坚持下来的决定。有时候回过头来想一想，当我们在生活中碰到困难的时候，最大的敌人可能就是我们自己。若能够战胜自己的恐惧和不安，你既能完成几乎一切的事情！
男儿当志强！在新加坡，每位父母疼爱的宝贝儿子在青年阶段都必须要踏出自己的舒适圈来服从兵役。而在他们实行艰苦的野外训练中途，考虑周全的当局会递上至亲家人的来函借此在精神上来支持他们。以下是姐姐写给弟弟在野外军训的一封信，信中还应用了从心理学角度的鼓励话语……
页姗
英语原文
“Yo, recently learnt that we tend to underestimate what we can emotionally handle (textbook or research article, can’t remember the source, aka source amnesia). From the evolutionary perspective, it would be so we would avoid those unknown and unfamiliar events that could potentially endanger us (psychologically). But guess what, turns out we can handle more than we think, no matter how devastating the emotional/psychological burden (as long as its not overly traumatic). So, that means that the next time you think “I can’t do this anymore, feel like giving up”, in actuality, your mind is just shielding you from potential damage, and you are no where close to your limit. Also the more you suffer, the more you can suffer. The threshold for “giving up” gets higher ‘coz now you know the strategies to deal and cope, and you have gained the experience + the knowledge that you can actually overcome it, thus increasing your self-efficacy — that’s your belief of your innate abilities to achieve goals. (“Self-efficacy reflects confidence in the ability to exert control over one's own motivation, behavior, and social environment”, so high SE is good). So... stay safe (physically) and have fun!
华语翻译
呦，近来的学习我了解到了我们总是倾向于低估自己在情绪上的掌控能力（资料讯息来源：书本或研究报告）。 以进化论的解说，之所以然是因为我们的潜意识在面对未知或陌生的情况可能会带来的威胁而表现出来的心里反应。 事实上证明，我们掌控的能力远超于我们的想象，无论在情感或精神上的负担有多重（只要不是过于的创伤性）。 这意味着当我们以后产生“我再也做不下去了，想放弃了”的念头时，其实就是你心里想防护你受伤的可能性，而你 却离自己的极限还远着呢！ 何况，你越是受苦，你就越能吃苦！而“放弃”这个念头的门槛就越高，因为你有了确实的经验和知识，已经明白了 应对的策略，因此增强加了自己的自我效能 — 这就是达致目标的内在信念。 （附：“自我效能”反射出自信心去掌控本身的动力，行为以及适应社会环境的能力。所以自我效能越高就越好！） 好了就这样……要注意安全，过得有乐趣！
启安
英语原文
“Our minds are stronger than we think, and this proved true for me from my experiences. My journey in NS has been one filled with ups and downs. A brief summary of my NS journey is this: Basic Military Training, BMT -> out of course due to injury -> 8-5 stay out clerk -> re course BMT -> Officer Cadet School, OCS. Coming to OCS was something unexpected, and almost proved too tough for me. About 2 months in, I was down in the dumps. I found myself almost giving up, almost requesting to leave after I got sick during an outfield and could not complete the exercise. But, through the support of my family and peers, I persevered on. I realised it wasn't so tough after all; it was just my own negativity telling myself to give up. Overcoming that, I have graduated from OCS and am now waiting for vocation posting. I definitely do not regret pushing on. Sometimes your biggest enemy can be yourself. If you can overcome your own fears and uncertainty, you can do almost anything.
华语翻译
其实我们的心智比我们想象中的还要强！众所周知，服兵役的过程是充满着变数的，我的亲身经历就是一个例子。刚开始接受基本军训时，由于跌倒受伤，我无法继续基本训练而被安排到办公室成了一名朝八晚五的阿兵哥书记。但是自从重新受训后我便被选中分配去上军官的训练课程。军官训练这项安排是我始料不及的事情。刚开始军训的前两个月也确实是让我难以应付；由于在其中一次的营外训练中途生病了，无法完成课程，身心受到了打击，我几乎就要放弃了这项严谨的军官课程训练！但是在家人和哥儿们的鼓励之下，我坚持了下来继续接受各项挑战。过后我发现其实所有的挑战并非想象中的那么艰苦，那纯粹是自己消极的心态在作祟。如今，克服了心理障碍的我已毕业于军校，正等待分派到营地执行任务，我没后悔当初坚持下来的决定。有时候回过头来想一想，当我们在生活中碰到困难的时候，最大的敌人可能就是我们自己。若能够战胜自己的恐惧和不安，你既能完成几乎一切的事情！
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